6 Intimate Ways to Spice up Date Night

Now that the world is slowly returning back to normalcy as more and more people are getting vaccinated, date nights are back, but I think it’s time we take it up a notch. Date nights are typically a lovely dinner and movie but we can’t go back to the basics without spicing things up.

This weekend, I went to visit my boyfriend and we always do a date night on Saturdays to keep our love alive and do something special for each other. With that being said, we still did our dinner and movie tradition, but we decided to spice things up a bit by adding a little more intimacy. 

Here are 6 Intimate Ways to Spice Up Your Date Night (or even baecation since many of us are traveling this summer):

1.    Start your day off with a workout together-there is nothing more attractive than to see your partner glowing and dripping in sweat from the hard work they put in at the gym especially when you’re right beside them. Let’s not forget that exercising releases endorphins which causes you to be happier around each other which is great energy for date night later.

2.    Go shopping and pick out each other’s outfits-having your partner choose your outfit for the night makes the entire look a little more extraordinary because you don’t have to worry or guess if they’ll like it or not because they picked it out. Plus, you get to see what styles they like best on you without them having to verbally communicate.

3.    Create a cocktail inspired by your favorite experience with your partner-this can sound a little tricky, but you can easily go on Pinterest and look up some remarkable cocktail recipes. If you like going to the beach together, type in “beach inspired cocktails.” It just makes the date night a little more fun and memorable.    

4.    Stare into each other’s eyes for 10 minutes-this can seem uncomfortable at first but that’s why this activity is important to make you feel more comfortable with your partner. Staring acts as a deep form of meditation for the both of you and can be used as an instrument to reconcile emotional distress and spiritual disconnect. Most couples skip out on this intimacy and resort to sex, but this is much deeper. P.S. it’s okay to laugh, just don’t speak and continue to have eye contact.

5.    End the night with a massage-the massage can’t be a basic massage; it has to give off a spa-like vibe. I go to the spa once a month for a massage, so my expectations are a little different, even at home. To spice up your date night massage, make sure you have matching robes, it just makes it feel more luxurious. Secondly, set the tone with a candle or even diffuser, (I highly suggest a diffuser from Vitruvi, who’s diffusers give a luxury self-care vibe and offer the best essential oils to offer the ultimate relaxation). You can also create a playlist, or tell Alexa to play some music. Alexa can play rainforest sounds or smooth sensual music-my favorite is Summer Walker “Body” that’s an Amazon Original exclusive. Lastly, have massage oil ready. Don’t be basic and pull out lotion, your partner deserves much more than that!

6.    Write a letter to your partner-when you write this letter, focus on the day you had together, describe how you felt, acknowledge what you liked and disliked, compliment your partner and tell them how much they mean to you. This letter not only amplifies the intimacy, but it strengthens the communication which is key.

 By the way, I’m not a dating or relationship expert, I just know what I like and what works for me. Be creative, think outside the box and achieve intimacy however it works for you. You can use these ideas at your own discretion but focus on what makes you and your partner the happiest, that’s what love is all about!

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