being Single During The Holidays
Single bells, single bells, single all the way!!!
Happy holidays, it’s almost time for Christmas! Are you excited? Or are you ready to just get it over with so you can move on with your life?
As you know, Christmas is at the peak of cuffing season and sometimes it can be a bit discouraging to see everyone else cuffed but you’re not. So, what do you? Do you try to bring old flames back or re-download dating apps so you can have somebody (I mean anybody) just to cuddle with and keep you warm at night?
However, I hope you know that when you do that, you’re wasting your time (and having meaningless sex which is pointless, but touche I guess). I’m at the point in my life, where if I can’t bring them around my family, then I don’t need to be with them. The holidays are about love and family, so if you can’t find the right person who can cultivate that, then it’s nothing wrong with being single.
If you are single during the holidays, then this is the time to be your strongest. This is the time to not fold from pressures, especially with people posting on social media about their relationships, Kay Jeweler’s engagement ring commercials (which occur every 5 minutes during the holidays), your friends talking about holiday baecations at the cabin, etc. I mean that’s good for them, but your time is coming, don’t try to rush it. What’s more important is the love you have for yourself, not the fake love you try to create from someone.
As an added bonus, you don’t have to worry about buying anyone a Christmas gift and you can go to dope Ugly Christmas Sweater parties and meet people. See you don’t have to be alone. for the holidays
Story time: About two years ago, I was in a toxic relationship and during the holidays we argued even more. You know what they say about a guy who argues during the holidays, right? He’s not trying to buy you a gift! So besides from all that, even though we argued, I still bought this dude a gift and spent good money on it that I could have spent on myself or my business! I got him some well thought out gifts, which included one of his favorite shirts that he lost while we were on vacation. I just knew he’d be excited. But on Christmas day, I gave him his gift and of course he loved it, but guess what he got me? NOTHING! He claimed he didn’t have money and didn’t think I’d get him anything because we were arguing so much. I was like “dude really? Not even a handwritten card?” I felt so stupid and I said I’d never do that again. I took that L as a Lesson Learned. That lesson was to love myself more than I should love someone else. I didn’t even get myself anything for Christmas that year because I depended on him to get it for me which is the sad part. Had I loved myself, and was strong in the concept that it’s ok to be single during the holidays, I would have saved my money and even my sanity.
Therefore, it’s ok to be single. You don’t have to spend money on someone else who may even not get you anything, or if they do get you something, it’s a gift that you don’t even like. Use that money for yourself or for your friends. We as women tend to gift our men better than we gift our friends and friends hold us down better than these men, am I right or nah?
This reminds me, my good friend Brieanna who’s about to get sworn as a lawyer, texted me a few days ago and was like “sis, what’s your cash app?” and I told her. She then sent me money and said “enjoy Starbucks on me” as my Christmas gift and that was sooooo sweet! I’m thankful to have friends like her and it make’s me think, “who needs a scrub when you have friends like these?”
Being single during the holidays should bring you closer with your family and your friends, which is a good thing. When we get in relationships, we tend to distance ourselves from friends and family and prioritize our free time differently, and there’s nothing wrong with that, but just make sure it’s with the right person. In the meantime, love yourself first, and remember God loves you best.
Merry Christmas!