Female Entrepreneurship and Dating-Guide for Men and Tips for Women

Happy Sunday! If you are reading this, you are either a girl boss, or a guy wanting to date a girl boss, either way this is something for you so HEYYYYY! This is going to be a really fun but informative blog, because I feel like there are some things that need to be addressed. Not everyone knows how to date and not everyone knows how to date an entrepreneur, which is on a different level, but reading this should help. The first part of this blog is for women, and the second part is for men, but ladies are encouraged to read part 2 because it has cute date ideas. 

Part 1

Before I begin, one of my Facebook friends (a male) asked me “say you and I were conversing and showing interest in each other….do you feel like every date we go on should be $100 or more…or would you be comfortable with wining and dining at home?” I think this was a good question, and my answer to that is no. No you don’t have to always spend more than $100, and I also say no to chilling at the house if it’s the first few dates. I don’t want to be at your house, and I don’t want you to always spend that much on me, especially if I don’t know you (you could be crazy) and you don’t know me (I could be crazy). But when it comes to spending that kind of money, it can also depend on his tax bracket as well. If I date a man who’s wealthy, like making 6 figures and he suggests Applebees, 2 for $20, I’m going to think two different things: he could be doing it to see if I like him for him and not just his money, or trying to play me. I’d still go on the date and see where his mind is.

Side note: Women like to date men with money, but it means nothing if you can’t bring anything to the table. If you are building your business, you may not be rich in the first year or so, and that doesn’t mean you have to have high standards for men. By the way, unless you are married, never allow a man to invest in your business (buy you a salon, buy you a storefront, invest in your inventory, etc) he may use that against you when you break up or if your business takes off and then he’ll try to remind you that you wouldn’t have anything without him, so just an fyi.

Now ladies, if you are an entrepreneur, you know, just out here owning your own business, striving for greatness, on your way to making millions, but you are not quite there yet, your time is VERY VALUABLE! You cannot waste it on someone who is trying to use you, distract you, or hurt you. You gotta be nice for what to these losers. But I know sometimes you may want to get out there and date, but you have to be careful about who you let have access to you and into you (oops, did I just say that?)! When I say access into you, I mean more than just your body, it’s your mind, and your spirit. Sometimes when toxic men enter those accessibilities, they can fill it with toxicity and you don’t need that. I used to date men and allowed their toxic behavior to affect me, and I became toxic until I just had enough. But some women don’t do that, they stay in toxic relationships and they become bitter, jealous of other relationships, angry and most importantly, distracted from who and what God has for them.

When you are working your way up the ladder to success, because there are no elevators, you must be cautious about who you bring with you. They could be dragging you down, or lifting you up. The goal in dating, if you are a girl boss, is to only make time for someone who will lift you up. You know, like empathetic when you have priorities for your business, support you, show up at your events, basically not getting in your way, but making a way!

Honestly, it can be tough when dating and trying to grow your business. I have been living in Atlanta for a month and a few weeks now, and I have been on more dates with women than I have with men, and I am fine with that. The dates with women are just follow ups from networking events and I have met some really amazing women and made new friends. This helps make more women aware of what I do and who I am. If I went on more dates with men, then I wouldn’t have made the connections I did, or received the advice I have from other female entrepreneurs. If all I did was networked with men, and I claim to be a women’s empowerment advocate, there would be a conflict. I’m just living in my purpose.

But when you are dating, ladies, it is good to understand a man’s intentions at least by the second or third date. So that you are not wasting your time or feelings, which are two valuable things. When emotional feelings get involved, and time is wasted, this is serving as a distraction from your success. The devil comes in various forms, and he could approach you in the form of a handsome man to distract from what God is about to bless you with. Just because he may look good, he may not be good for you. He could be a thief, liar, abuser, or just wants to have sex. You have to know what his intentions are before moving forward.

Another thing is, you must value your time. It’s ok to schedule your dates and put a time frame on them. Remember, your time is precious, so every minute counts. If he wants to take you out for dinner and movie, set aside 3-4 hours and stick to that time frame ad let him knowbefore hand. At least in the beginning stages, because you don’t want to waste 6 or 9 hours with someone who may go host in a few days. You could have used that time to attend a networking event, scheduled a professional headshot, or work on your sales pitch. Any time away from your business is a distraction, just make sure it’s worth it.

Part 2

Hey male reader! if you are reading this, and need insight on dating a female entrepreneur then know these 3 things.

1.     When talking to her, ask her about her business sometimes. Ask questions like how is she generating leads and sales? Is she reaching her goals for the week? Questions that you generally care about the answer to. Don’t always talk about sports or sex.

2.     When you want to take her out on a date, pick the place. Stop leaving it up to her! I hate when a guy asks me “what you wanna do?” Because what I really want to do is stay home, work on my business, and try to figure out how I’m going to reach my high levels of success within the next 6 months! We entrepreneurs have a million tabs open in our brains, don’t add anymore. When we have a place a mind, and ready to go there, we will let you know. Who knows, we may invite you to a free rooftop party at a 5 star restaurant, just be ready.

3.     Be her motivation! Save the drama for your mama! If you need tips on motivation, listen to Les Brown podcasts and then maybe send them to her. Better yet, listen to the podcast and text her 1 or 2 motivational sentences. She will appreciate you on so many levels. Send her flowers with a motivational quote on the card, acknowledge her hard work. Being an entrepreneur is hard and the struggle is real sometimes, and often we need extra motivation.

 Here are a few places that are great date ideas (as well as cost effective) that will make you seem more attractive when dating a female entrepreneur, because we like quality time and one on one connections (ladies, you will appreciate this): 

Picnic-buy a cute picnic blanket off Amazon buy some wine or rosé, some fancy meats and cheeses, and a small fruit tray. You guys can sit, unwind and relax as the sun sets. This takes away from the traditional dinner date---by the way, entrepreneurs think outside the box, so suggesting something like this will flatter her.

Coffee dates-set up a time for you guys to grab coffee on her off day, or take her before she starts her day so that you are the first person she encounters that day. Getting coffee at Starbucks instead of going to IHOP is far more interesting and intimate.

Walk in the park- taking a nice stroll is so old school, but I think its necessary. It cuts out outside distractions which makes room for genuine connections (just make sure you have bug spray).

Bookstore-ALL entrepreneurs love a good mind stimulating book, especially those that are business related. This shows you care about her mind as well as her business and when you show this, you have her heart.

Puzzle solving-this is only if you guys have reached the level of going to each other’s house. Netflix and chill is sooooo overrated. Building a puzzle, like the big ones with tiny pieces, is fun and its team building, she will appreciate this. It will take her mind off of things.

Vision board-this is also something you can do at each other’s house, this way, you know each other goals and intentions without having to ask.

With that being said, dating an entrepreneur is not like dating anyone else. We see things differently, we work hard and are sometimes overwhelmed. Finding someone who understands this is golden. Therefore, we must date with a purpose and remember that our time is precious.

 Lastly, just because a man wants you, doesn’t mean he supports you, discern the difference.

Comment below what your thoughts are on these tips especially the date ideas. Let. me know if they work out for you!