Women Empowerment and Unity Should Be A Lifestyle, Here's Why
Happy Sunday, did you have a productive weekend? I pray so, everyday is an opportunity to get you closer to your dreams. Use your time wisely, especially on the weekends.
For my weekend, I made some great connections and gave back to the community, empowering women. On Saturday I volunteered at the domestic violence shelter and fed women and children affected by domestic violence which was very impactful. There were so many beautiful women and adorable kids and they were thankful. But on Friday, I went to this event called Black Women United Day of Unity by Real Women Atlanta Magazine and it was very inspiring. In the morning, there was a panel discussion on what unity means for women and why it is important. After that, was a brunch and then later in the evening, they hosted a party at this beautiful beauty lounge. I met so many powerful women in business there including the Mayor of Lithonia, Senator Tonya Anderson, the creator of the Black Women’s Expo and more. I am still in awe of everything!
At the forum, I learned exactly what it means to be united with other women. Crazy thing is, I was already about that united life before I went there, I was just surrounded by other women who felt the same. It was definitely black girl magic in there! I felt better leaving there than I ever did on any date I’ve been on.....yes sis, it was THAT serious!
What does it mean to be united? United means to be joined together politically, for a common purpose, or by common feelings. Our common purpose in life, as women is to empower and protect each other, because if we don’t, we end up tearing each other down.
I think women empowerment is more than just a habit, it’s a lifestyle. It needs to be more than just a comment or like under ones picture on Instagram, it needs to be a call or text to your friend to let her know she is amazing and that you guys should link up soon! Whenever we link up, and start brainstorming with each other, it births greatness.
SN for my black women: you know how when you’re at a job and you’re like the only black person there, then they hire another black person and then y’all connect? You become close because of the same challenges you may face at that job and can empower each other. It’s the same concept when you see other women in public. We face the same challenges from dating, children, menstrual cycle cramps (because girrrrrrrl), hardships, business issues, etc. so why not hone in on that and connect with each other? We are not strangers, we are all connected through Christ!
Being a woman is like being a part of a secret society. It’s like we are born into some super exclusive, prestigious goddess organization...IT’S LIT!
But it’s only lit if we stand united. That means we can’t walk past each other in public and not acknowledge one another. Typically when I’m in public I usually smile or wave when I see other women. Especially if another girl is staring hard at me or mugging me, I give her a smile and say hey because this shifts the energy.
If I do happen to strike a conversation with her, I refer to her as a queen, because we all are, we just need to treat each other like it. We have to learn to love another even if we don’t know each other. There’s beauty in unity. You never know how much of an impact you could leave on someone else based off your love and respect for them.
Another thing we need to work on as women is communicating with each other. We may talk with each other, but we are not always communicating. What I mean by this is genuinely having deep conversations with one another, find out what’s going on in each other’s lives, knowing the problems we face and empowering each other and giving each other resources. We should be able to talk to other women and listen in a non judgmental way. We should be able to tell our friends our secrets and never have to worry about it being told to someone! We have to honor and respect the code of women empowerment!
Can I be real for a second? We have to stop calling each other bitches and hoes when we get upset, like straight up. I’m pretty sure Oprah doesn’t call Michelle Obama that, and that’s because they are elevated and believe in women empowerment. I know we hear it in the music, but that has got to stop! Also, stop worrying about if another woman’s purse is fake or not, or if her outfit matches, it’s none of your business! The only time you should care, is if you want to genuinely help her.
Another thing that gets on my nerves is not letting your friends know that you can’t make it. If your friend invited you somewhere and you can’t attend, let her know. Don’t stand her up. You wouldn’t do that to your boyfriend, so keep that same energy with your friend. If you can’t come through, respect her enough to let her know and if it’s a ticketed event, buy a ticket in support of her. That way you’re not completely letting her down.
Here’s another important topic: When you’re out in public and see another woman with her man, acknowledge her, not him. Compliment something on her. The side chick era is DEAD! Besides, a man can’t cheat if the other woman says no. So let’s start saying no to division and yes to unity!
Matter of fact, if you’re out at the nail salon, strike a conversation with another female. No need to sit beside someone for more than 15 minutes and not speak to them. Next time you’re at the nail salon I dare you to try this. Then I double dog dare you to pay for her nails! Yup I went there. You may start a new friendship from that and you never know who she knows or who she is. You’re just planting a seed. A seed of unity and empowerment.
Lastly, if you know something that can help another woman, tell her! Start with something like “hey I noticed you’re doing x, and I want to help you. My friend actually specializes in x, let me refer you to her.” When you do this, you’re moving with intention towards unity.
All in all, we need to celebrate eachother as women, and love eachother even if we don’t know one another. The world would be nothing without us, duh because we give life! So let’s stop fighting against eachother. We are one.
A lot of women are insecure in themselves and in their businesses and it’s because of the perception of other women. God is going to place other women in your life this week to let you know that you are priceless and your value is high, this is why there should be unity n the female communiy. So do what’s best and start connecting with other women and strengthening the relationships we have with other women!