Know Who's In Your Circle vs. Your corner

Happy Labor Day Weekend, aren’t you excited that you don’t have to work tomorrow? What are you going to do today? Whatever you do, I’m pretty sure you’ll be spending time with friends and family, you know, the ones in your circle and your corner.

I saw this post the other day that said “beware of who’s in your circle, but not your corner” and it really make me think about who I allow to be in my circle and if they are in my corner or not.

Most people who are in your circle, are your acquaintances, they’re the people you have common interests with. The people who you can have fun with occasionally, who come to your events just to see how it turns out and don’t stay long, don’t like or share your business posts, or the people who randomly go missing when you need help like moving, or something major that you cannot do by yourself. Or better yet, the people you invite to something you are organizing, and they say “remind me when we get closer to the date”. Those are the people in your circle, who are not invested in you, and this can include family, you know like the ones ALWAYS in your business but don’t support your business, yea those people.

The people in your corner, are the chosen and golden ones. They literally hold you down, always support you without you having to ask, offer their help and even their resources to further develop you and your business, they’re the ones that when push comes to shove, they will always have your back, they are your warriors on the battle field. The people in your circle are the ones that might cheer you on while you’re on the battlefield, but they’re definitely not jumping in to help you win.

The people in your circle should NEVER know about your personal business or any business moves, because they will come and go, and you don’t want your information to be floating around just so they can use it to their advantage. They don’t have your best interest at heart, so why even pour your heart out to them?

Look at the person who you are in a relationship with, are they in your circle just to get some and then more, only to benefit themselves? Or are they in your corner so they can help benefit you, your goals, and your relationship with God and others? I had an ex who always was pointing the finger at other people telling me how toxic they were and how I didn’t need them, and that he was the only one who had my back. But it turned out, whenever I needed something done, or some support, he turned his back on me. He would always come up with an excuse on why he could not help. However, the ones who was pointing the finger at, were there to support. I was just in a different headspace and always vented to him about quarrels I had with other people, and he thrived off that, he was definitely not in my corner.

Which is why it is so important to not tell the people in your circle your business, especially if it involves others. So just be careful about people in your circle pointing fingers at other people, they could be blinding you from their own toxic actions.

Think about it, when you look at your circle, who’s in it? When you look at the ones in your corner, who’s in it? My circle is wide, because I’m a social butterfly, but I also know that not everyone in my circle is in my corner, and that’s ok. Not everyone you meet is part of your assignment.

I used to get soooooooo angry when things didn’t work out with a friend or a boyfriend and I would vent on social media so that they could see it, but it was not until recently, I learned you have to let that sh*t go! Not everyone is supposed to be on your assignment or be with you when you make it to what God has destined for you. God has an assignment for you and wants you to live a life full of abundance with people who have unconditional love and support for you, not everyone is on that assignment. You may have to cut some people off or just charge it to the game. I have charged so many things to the game that Duracell needs to sponsor me!

But anyways, my corner is very small, and it makes up a group of people who have my back ten toes down. I can call on them for anything and they will make time for me, and if they can’t they have the respect and decency to tell me and then possibly refer me to somebody who can. You know they’re in your corner when they are consistent, they follow up, respect you and are loyal.

For example, I just met this nice woman, named Kathryn, owner of Simple Fat Burn. I reached out to her because I was calling around to find sponsors for my upcoming event and her business showed up as a business that supports women. When we spoke, it was one of the most amazing conversations I had with someone. She asked me about my event, who I was, what my plans were for my business, and more. She asked some questions that I don’t think I have ever been asked, because she was so interested in what I was doing.

Unfortunately, she was unable to sponsor me because she was already sponsoring other events, BUT she invited me to this event called What Women Want Networking Event and advised me that I could network with other women who would be interested in sponsoring. She even suggested we meet up for lunch one day so she could get to know me more. Needless to say, when I went to the event, I met so many amazing women who were inspired by my business and wanted to support—which reminds me, I have a few coffee dates coming soon to link up with them. Someone like Kathryn is good to have in your corner, I could see her on the battlefield with me as I fight the battles of becoming successful.

Additionally, I met this other young woman named Kendra at the Millionaire Mastermind event, and we both started talking about our businesses and our common interests. Then she suggested we go for coffee one day and talk about how we can build a friendship, and connect our businesses, which was a really cool idea.

PAUSE**The last time I met with someone for coffee, was my dear friend Brieanna who I found on Instagram and her energy was something that attracted me. I asked her to be a speaker for my Women’s Empowerment Fashion Show and she agreed. We have been great friends ever since, and weekly, we text each other to see how we are doing.

But when Kendra and I met, her energy was amazing, and I found out how she develops businesses and help them get branded merchandise for their business. In fact, I told her about my upcoming event, and she gave me a few resources to make it successful (including a videographer and photographer, as well as a link to a motivational speech to help me with my motivational speaking career goals). I told her about my three businesses and how we could collaborate one day. Someone like Kendra, is worth having in your corner. The next time you are out at a networking event, or maybe even shopping, and you connect with someone, follow up with them and have coffee with them. You never know how you can benefit each other.

All in all, the people in your corner and your circle have a purpose in your life. It’s up to you to discern who belongs to which group. I support everyone in my circle, and in my corner. You have to show support to people in your circle who don’t support you and show a little humility because it will eventually pay off. HOWEVER, like I said before, you may have to cut some people off if they disrespect you, especially exes. Not everyone can be in your circle or your corner and you often have to let them go and move on.

If they don’t support you now, it’s okay, you’ll be fine. You know why? Because God will prepare a table for you in the presence of your enemies. God will prepare a feast of blessings for you and those in your corner, and serve it for you in front of the people who never supported you or doubted you.

 “Surround yourself with people who want to see you succeed. Never hide your talents in the shadows to make others comfortable”-Demi Dixon, owner of Demi Bella Beauty

I hope this helped and encouraged you to learn the differences between people and their purpose in your life. Leave a comment below on your thoughts about this topic, have you had situations where you thought someone was in your corner when they should have been in your circle?