Men Empowerment Is Just As Important As Women Empowerment

If you have been reading my blogs, or follow me on social media, then you’ll see that I have an organization called Secured Society. I originally created it for women and I encouraged men to support. However, I decided to change it to be exclusively for women and how we can be secured physically, emotionally, financially and mentally because women need that security while in relationships.

Needless to say, I had a reality check on the fact that I already have a nonprofit organization preventing victimization of crimes targeting women through empowerment and education. So a lightbulb (ding, ding) hit me this past weekend, and I realized that men need empowerment just like women do!

I’m not disregarding the fact that women face more issues than men, because we do, however, half of our issues would no longer exist if men received the empowerment they need.

Think of it like this: if a woman needs empowerment, treatment and counseling after she went through a highly abusive relationship, the relationship would not have been toxic if her boyfriend was empowered in the first place!

Male empowerment involves many things, it includes anger management, money management, self-control, communicating how they feel without fear of judgement, etc. Men are prideful beings and their feelings matter as well. In fact, I remember when I was at work the other day and my male coworker and I were having a discussion about domestic violence. I mentioned how physically abusive some men are, and then he clapped back by saying how verbally abusive women are!

He then went on to say that all forms of abuse are important and leave wounds, both visible and invisible, because he’s still scarred from what his ex said to him. I had to realize that what he was saying was true. Sometimes women can say the most lethal words to a man, stripping away his manhood and his response could be to either ignore it, break down, cheat or physically attack (you remember the scene from Power when Ghost attacked Tasha after she said hurtful words to him right?).

Even growing up, if a boy fell down or something happened that hurt him both physically and emotionally, he was taught to do one thing: “man up” as in to hide their emotions, forget about how they feel because “no one cares”, and to take a risk that is against their best mental interests. This is the opposite of male empowerment, which is what I think the real “manning up” is about.

Therefore, yes, women need empowerment to be courageous, but they should also respect their male partner. On the other hand, men also need that empowerment to respect their female partners. If both parties are empowered, respectful, and loving towards one another, then there would be no cheating, no divorces, no abuse, no insecurities, etc.!

The only way to accomplish this is to include men in on our discussions, meet ups, collaborations, etc. as we address the issues that stem from lack of empowerment.

I said the other day that there are more men in jail than women, but there are more women in the graves than men, and we need a balance, that balance is empowerment. It’s so easy to say that men are trifling, but it shouldn’t be difficult to empower them and get them the help and guidance they deserve. Dont give up on men (especially black men), just acknowledge that they too deserve nurturance more than disrespect. Once this occurs, the respect will be reciprocated (and with the right man, it will be reciprocated times 10).

Ladies, always remember that you receive what you manifest so if you want a respectful man, then manifest that by respecting and empowering him. The best way to do that is to hear their opinions and acknowledge their emotions.

That’s all I have for now on this topic. Meanwhile, if you want to join Secured Society or you know someone that you think would benefit from our group of male and female empowerment, click here to join. Our next Meetup will be the “For Colored Girl’s” Movie Discussion March 14th and we look forward to everyone’s opinions, including the men.

P.S. Check this blog to see my interview I did with an ex whom I was in a toxic relationship with to see his side of the story.